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Be Selfish!

by Bert Oliva

How important are you…to you? You should be the most important person in your life. Because, without you, your life does not exist. Think about it. You are vital to your life and to your success. So, what are you doing to honor how important you are to you?

So often we put ourselves last instead of first. Women especially do this. Husbands, children, jobs, family responsibilities, etc. all come before they do. Why? Because we’re told in society that we are not supposed to put ourselves first, that we must be humble and self degrading.

I am by no means saying we need to be selfish, or go after our desires in ways that hurt other people. I am not saying to quit your job or leave your children. You have responsibilities that you must take care of, but do not lose sight of yourself in the process. We must learn to take care of ourselves first. We must learn to realize that we are just as important as anyone else in our lives; in fact, I believe we are more important that anyone else in our lives, because it is our life.

This is not your husband or wife’s life, this is not your mother or father’s, this is not your children’s, this is not your boss’…this is your life. So it’s time you start living for you.

Change your patterns of thoughts and actions. Do not get up early to take your children to school because you have to, do it because you want to, because they are a vital aspect of your life that makes it better because they are in it. Do not go to work and count the hours till 5pm because you need to pay your bills, go to work and do the best job possible because you take pride in what you do and you know that working enables you to have the best quality of life you possibly can.

These small changes in your thinking pattern will make all the difference in your life.  Try it out and let me know what you think. If you do it properly, you will truly start living for you, rather than other people. You will no longer feel like the victim of your own life, but the hero.

You only get one life in this world, it’s time you start living it for you.

Remember to Live Life, Don’t Let Life Live You,

Bert Oliva